Emotional Intelligence


Crafting Your Vision

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I like to try and start my day off with some reading most mornings, so this being a typical day, I picked up my latest inspirational read, Dr. Wayne Dyers’ recent book Wishes Fulfilled: Mastering the Art of Manifesting, a wonderful book on the creating the life your desire.


Crafting Your Vision

Through the seeds of our imagination we craft a new vision for ourselves. Dyer explains, as we seek to manifest that vision, we do all the intellectual work necessary. …

The Butterfly Effect

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As I write this post, I sit in my 2009 Subaru Forester. I am in stopped dead, neverending traffic on my way to a NJ Association of Women Business Owners Seminar. I am shaking my metaphorical fist at the sky saying “Why is this happening to me??” My frustration in compounded by the fact that I drive a car with a manual transmission and my left foot is cramping from repeatedly having to push down on the clutch from the constant shifting. …

Uncovering Your True Self

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Sometimes, actually most often times, we are our own worse enemy. 

This week I cam across a very powerful article by Eckhert Tolle, author of A New Earth. A New Earth has been one of the most influential books in my life and I encourage all of you reading this post to read it….if you haven't already. I personally have read and listened to this book 7 times!! The funny thing is, EVERY time I reread it I glean something deeper from it! …

Your Life Is A Story

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Like any good hero’s story, the protagonist must overcome some obstacle in his/her life in order to grow personally and understand themselves and their world better. A Life is made of chapters, much like stories are. When I think back on my life, it almost seems like I have lived many chapters within The Story of Me. 

Chapter 1- Growing up Brooklyn (Childhood)

Chapter 2- 70’s Street Urchin (Teenage)

Chapter 3- Free Spirit (College)

The Energy Behind Thought

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 Consider the following two quotes: 

“Each thought contributes a specific energy pattern to the energy field of our being. There are no idle thoughts. All thoughts have an energetic consequence. It is only a question of how your thoughts will effect you energetically. All thoughts create in their own likeness. Catabolic energy injures, anabolic energy heals.In this reality every individual possesses a characteristic Level of Consciousness that frames, or limits, both the perception of and response to external reality.”

4 Big Blocks to Your Success

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Consider this scenario: you’re driving down the road, you’ve got some great music on and you’re in a positive, light and carefree mood.  The sun is shining, it’s a bright, beautiful day. All is right with the world.  Suddenly, out of nowhere, a huge deer jumps out in front of your car in the road!  You swerve, narrowly avoid hitting him and end up in a ditch, your car stalled and stuck. You are breathless, heart racing in your chest and your trip temporarily aborted…

Opportunity vs. Distraction

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How do we know the difference between whether what has shown up in our life presently is a distraction vs. an opportunity? This question is perhaps for many, one of the most difficult ones to answer.

 

 As I go through my journey post-divorce, rebuilding my own life and trying to plan for my future, I seem to be getting pulled in ten different directions, with opportunities/distractions showing up around every bend and twist in the road. …

To Thine Own Self Be True

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The most rewarding thing about my career choice is watching others become more authentically themselves, usually after periods of great pain, loss and change. They come to the coaching relationship “stuck” and without a real sense of direction or plan, or consumed by their emotions.  Within a very short time, they are moving themselves forward, creating a vision and taking steps towards creating a new reality for themselves, beginning to make sense out of their emotional roller coasters and releasing negative energy.

Choice Challenged: Flowing While You're Going

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The Benefits of Coaching

I had a conversation with a fellow coach of mine last week concerning some angst I was experiencing over my own personal path (and yes, coaches get angst too)! Just like the awesome  coach I know her to be, she said just the right things and asked just the right questions. Although what started out as two peers just having  a conversation had actually transformed into a very natural and organic coaching session. …

Weeding Out the Old and Uncovering Hidden Beauty

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The Power of Metaphor

We’ve had some unusually mild and lovely spring weather here in the northeast lately, which has most people scrambling to get outside and clean up their yards, myself included. So this Sunday, I quit the seemingly never ending process of emptying boxes from my recent move and turned my attention to the long neglected flowerbeds in the front yard of my new home. I felt a strong need to get my hands in the dirt, feeling like it would be therapeutic for me.  …

The Mask of Anger

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Anger. We have all experienced that intense negative energy that seems to be so prevalent in divorce. Maybe it’s you who has these deep-seated feelings of anger and resentment towards your ex-spouse or STB ex, or maybe you are on the receiving end of an angry ex.  For the enlightened few, this doesn’t become part of the divorce experience. Although rare, there are some couples that manage to divorce amicably and as friends. …

STOP the Merry-go-Round


By Karen McMahon, Certified Divorce Coach 

Are you arguing with your spouse more often than ever during this difficult season of divorce?

How often do you find yourself continuing the argument long after the other person is gone?

If this sounds like you article is a must read.

After a confrontation with your spouse, you may find yourself operating on automatic pilot because you are living in your head.  All your attention is on the heated argument that continues.  …

     © Karen Basmagy 2014